Getting to the point of grace, of even being called a Christian, is 100% FAITH/BELIEVING. Absolutely nothing else.
After that, God expects you to live your life accordingly. That’s where God’s law comes in.
John 14:15If you love Me, you will keep My commandments. 16And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Advocate to be with you forever— 17the Spirit of truth. The world cannot receive Him, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him. But you do know Him, for He abides with you and will be in you.
Very important that you understand this, Elsie...
Those who KNOW Him (BELIEVE), KEEP HIS COMMANDMENTS/LAW, out of love for Christ, for what He did for them on the cross. That concept is at the very core of the NEW COVENANT. But, then again, you don’t believe it applies to YOU, as a Christian...You say (paraphrasing) ONLY TO THE JEW, TO THE JEW, TO THE JEW... (Paul says exactly the opposite. One of you is wrong).
Believe FIRST (faith unto salvation), then obey. (Judgment is based on that second part, you know, Elsie, your life as a PROFESSED BELIEVER in Christ).
Saved by Grace - kept by Works.
James 2:10 King James Version
For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all.
Good luck.