I get it, but our job is to love God and love our neighbor as we love God. Our job is not judge of our neighbor.
Loving your neighbor doesn't mean sleeping with her.
Not judging does not mean just go along with whatever they do. Real love means taking up the difficult task of calling out someone for doing wrong. If we fail to take the loving act of warning someone away from sin then we have to answer for that.
From the prophet Ezekiel 33:8-9:
If I tell the wicked, “O wicked one, you shall surely die,” and you do not speak out to dissuade the wicked from his way the wicked shall die for his guilt but I will hold you responsible for his death. But if you warn the wicked, trying to turn him from his way and he refuses to turn from his way, he shall die for his guilt but you shall save yourself.
These bishops and priests who encourage this will have much to answer for.