As an ordained minister who long ago grew appalled to see the consistency with which seemingly sincere and virtuous Christian girls and women preferred Bad Boys to Good Guys, I have a politically-incorrect assessment of the phenomenon:
Women were designed to submit to men, especially in an intimate sexual relationship - period. It is Natural Law, it is instinct, and it is powerful.
Women are therefore drawn to virile, dominant males, and find them sexually alluring. They often mistake ruthless, callous, and even abusive behavior for strength. (Cue the reason that so many so-called Liberated Women of the West give up that liberty to marry a brutal, sexist Muslim male! I have seen this happen.)
Nice Guys do indeed often finish last - in the institutionalized church as well as in society at large.
Humanity is fallen, and women are every bit as sinful as men - it just manifests differently for them.
The whole “Fifty Shades” thing is just more blatant and tactless than it was in the past. Women have been inviting and allowing Bad Boys to seduce them ever since the Fall.
I could name many Good Girls who married a Pew Warmer (my nickname for the Bad Boys who mainly went to church to find and nab a virgin) instead of a more modest and humble Christian man and lived to regret it.
You can all disagree with me; I really at this point could not care less: This is my view from the trenches, and I am sticking to it.
I don’t disagree with you in the least.
One of the problems is that Christians and Christian men don’t seem to have any idea how to be manly and a protector and an alpha male.
Christian men are equated with being weak and
Caspar Milquetoast types.
I suppose an example would be Donald Trump type men. Men who take a stand, fight for what they believe in, don’t take *No* for an answer, won’t compromise their values, do what they say, instead of someone who is basically a pacifist.
The turning the other cheek teaching has been misused to create a whole generation of men who don’t or won’t fight back when it’s necessary.
Women want to feel protected and pursued and don’t get that from men who compromise everything.