Coming up on 30 years myself.
The trick to me is remember the little stuff. We still say please and Thank you to each other. We tell each other “I love you” everyday. We don’t buy each other gifts for Christmas, Valentines, Anniversary, instead we do, or buy something we both want. The Hollywood/TV myth that if you don’t run out and buy your wife a new diamond every week she’ll hate you, is BS.
Maybe I got lucky. She likes NFL Football, and NASCAR. To make sure I was being fair, she “talked me into” watching “So you think you can dance” this season. I hate it but it’s something she loves, soooo.
Both sides pitch in both sides win.
What a good idea.
Granddaughter asked us recently why we were acting like we just met each other (we were doing the please and thank you thing around the dinner dishes). It was a little sad, because she had obviously never seen that in her now-divorced parents or her grandparents on her mom’s side of the family.