It wasn’t so much that her personality changed, but that she spend all of her time going to meeting, working district functions, sponsoring new people and helping those who relapsed. It became her new life. She was not there as a mother when she was drunk and she was not there when she was consumed with AA. I likened it to replacing one addiction with another and the family came in second.
“one addiction with another and the family came in second.”
Bingo-that is what a cult does, too, according to a textbook I had for a course about cults. One of my friends actually had an extension to the AA meeting place installed in his home and answered it when he is not at the AA meeting place-might still do that for all I know-no surprise 4 wives have gotten the hell out of there within 1-2 years...
He offered to pay me the going rate a few years ago for counseling him on his relationship failure-I’ve got the credentials, and needed the money badly, but he would not like my honesty, and I really didn’t want to listen to him whine so I declined-never regretted it, either...