1. Any and all physical contact is like a gateway drug to sex.
This is sound advice taken to an absurd extreme (handholding?!)
2. If you wait until you are married to have sex, God will reward you with mind-blowing sex and a magical wedding night.
Good sex takes time and practice. The two most important elements are patience and a sense of humor.
3. Girls don’t care about sex.
Most girls aren’t driven by sex the way men are. We’re wired that way. Generally, women appreciate sex more as they mature.
4. When you get married, you will immediately be able to fully express yourself sexually without guilt or shame.
What’s the fun in that? Just kidding.
I’ve seen it reiterated on this thread too many times not to comment on it.
The statement that ‘men are more interested in sex than women’ just isn’t true.
Yes. Women have more variety in their sex drives than men do. I’ve had friends who have never once had a climax well into middle age and yet still enjoy the act and others who have no sex drive at all.
But that’s weird. That’s not the norm. Most healthy women tend to have sex drives at least as strong (and many times) stronger than men. The reason men think we’re less interested is that our drive waxes and wains with our hormonal cycles and there’s probably a week out of the month where it’s more work to get into the mood. (Want proof? Go into any book store and check out the romance section. This is nothing more than fodder for frustrated women. And there are thousands upon thousands of books in that section.) The other reason for the myth is that the actual act is a little more complicated for us, but the daily *drive* is quite potent. (And our learning curve is significantly longer than boys. It’s just not as easy.)
Why is this important enough to bring up?
Because we’re told all our lives than men are insatiable lust hounds and it’s emphasized over and over again that men, ages 16-25, are obsessed with sex and can’t get enough.
So what happens when a young woman gets into a relationship with a young man and he doesn’t want her 24/7? What happens when *he’s* tired or stressed or just not in the mood?
She thinks that something is very, very wrong with her and her self esteem goes into the toilet. That’s the only reasonable answer in her mind because he’s supposed to be a lust-filled animal. She must be terribly wrong for him not to be crawling all over her.
And, as time goes by, women’s sex drive continues to grow into her 40’s and as her husband’s natural drive drops, she’s now in real trouble. This causes a LOT of issues in healthy, long-term marriages (if she’s not wise enough to understand the mechanics).
So people need to stop spreading this myth. I’ve counseled too many young women who hate themselves and are *really* upset with their young men because he’s *not* a functional sex addict.