I’ve seen it reiterated on this thread too many times not to comment on it.
The statement that ‘men are more interested in sex than women’ just isn’t true.
Yes. Women have more variety in their sex drives than men do. I’ve had friends who have never once had a climax well into middle age and yet still enjoy the act and others who have no sex drive at all.
But that’s weird. That’s not the norm. Most healthy women tend to have sex drives at least as strong (and many times) stronger than men. The reason men think we’re less interested is that our drive waxes and wains with our hormonal cycles and there’s probably a week out of the month where it’s more work to get into the mood. (Want proof? Go into any book store and check out the romance section. This is nothing more than fodder for frustrated women. And there are thousands upon thousands of books in that section.) The other reason for the myth is that the actual act is a little more complicated for us, but the daily *drive* is quite potent. (And our learning curve is significantly longer than boys. It’s just not as easy.)
Why is this important enough to bring up?
Because we’re told all our lives than men are insatiable lust hounds and it’s emphasized over and over again that men, ages 16-25, are obsessed with sex and can’t get enough.
So what happens when a young woman gets into a relationship with a young man and he doesn’t want her 24/7? What happens when *he’s* tired or stressed or just not in the mood?
She thinks that something is very, very wrong with her and her self esteem goes into the toilet. That’s the only reasonable answer in her mind because he’s supposed to be a lust-filled animal. She must be terribly wrong for him not to be crawling all over her.
And, as time goes by, women’s sex drive continues to grow into her 40’s and as her husband’s natural drive drops, she’s now in real trouble. This causes a LOT of issues in healthy, long-term marriages (if she’s not wise enough to understand the mechanics).
So people need to stop spreading this myth. I’ve counseled too many young women who hate themselves and are *really* upset with their young men because he’s *not* a functional sex addict.
It's not a myth. (Most) men are hardwired for horniness, and (most) women are hardwired to nest. This has been known since the dawn of time. Citing exceptions won't change basic human nature.
In a marriage, it is the responsibility of the "cooler" spouse to warm up, and of the warmer spouse to cool down. The essence of a good marriage is devotion to one's spouse and children, not personal fulfillment.
Now, if you're talking about a relationship outside of marriage, who gives a crap?
Men are more easily *triggered*, is all, which is not the same as being *more interested*.