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4 Lies the Church Taught Me About Sex
Relevant Magazine ^ | 10 June 2014 | Lily Dunn

Posted on 06/14/2014 10:06:08 AM PDT by Gamecock

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To: Wyrd bið ful aræd

There is a contingent of FRoman Catholics are are convinced beyond any hope of reasoning with, that anyone who leaves the Catholic church does so for moral reasons.

IOW, that those former Catholics don’t like the sexual moral strictness of Catholicism and think that they can have an easier time indulging in sexual impropriety in non-Catholic churches because those churches are so lax about sexual issues.

This article puts to rest the misrepresentation that non-Catholic churches are more morally lax than Catholicism.


61 posted on 06/14/2014 7:59:21 PM PDT by metmom (...fixing our eyes on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith....)
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To: Gamecock

The same line of thinking is at Pensacola Christian College. Mere incidental physical contact can result in expulsion on the grounds of “sexual immorality”.


62 posted on 06/15/2014 5:26:42 AM PDT by Fred Hayek (The Democratic Party is now the operational arm of the CPUSA)
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To: Jeff Chandler

I’ve seen it reiterated on this thread too many times not to comment on it.

The statement that ‘men are more interested in sex than women’ just isn’t true.

Yes. Women have more variety in their sex drives than men do. I’ve had friends who have never once had a climax well into middle age and yet still enjoy the act and others who have no sex drive at all.

But that’s weird. That’s not the norm. Most healthy women tend to have sex drives at least as strong (and many times) stronger than men. The reason men think we’re less interested is that our drive waxes and wains with our hormonal cycles and there’s probably a week out of the month where it’s more work to get into the mood. (Want proof? Go into any book store and check out the romance section. This is nothing more than fodder for frustrated women. And there are thousands upon thousands of books in that section.) The other reason for the myth is that the actual act is a little more complicated for us, but the daily *drive* is quite potent. (And our learning curve is significantly longer than boys. It’s just not as easy.)

Why is this important enough to bring up?

Because we’re told all our lives than men are insatiable lust hounds and it’s emphasized over and over again that men, ages 16-25, are obsessed with sex and can’t get enough.

So what happens when a young woman gets into a relationship with a young man and he doesn’t want her 24/7? What happens when *he’s* tired or stressed or just not in the mood?

She thinks that something is very, very wrong with her and her self esteem goes into the toilet. That’s the only reasonable answer in her mind because he’s supposed to be a lust-filled animal. She must be terribly wrong for him not to be crawling all over her.

And, as time goes by, women’s sex drive continues to grow into her 40’s and as her husband’s natural drive drops, she’s now in real trouble. This causes a LOT of issues in healthy, long-term marriages (if she’s not wise enough to understand the mechanics).

So people need to stop spreading this myth. I’ve counseled too many young women who hate themselves and are *really* upset with their young men because he’s *not* a functional sex addict.


63 posted on 06/15/2014 1:53:28 PM PDT by Marie (When are they going to take back Obama's peace prize?)
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So people need to stop spreading this myth.

It's not a myth. (Most) men are hardwired for horniness, and (most) women are hardwired to nest. This has been known since the dawn of time. Citing exceptions won't change basic human nature.

64 posted on 06/15/2014 2:51:01 PM PDT by Jeff Chandler (Conservatism is the political disposition of grown-ups.)
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So what happens when a young woman gets into a relationship with a young man and he doesn’t want her 24/7?

In a marriage, it is the responsibility of the "cooler" spouse to warm up, and of the warmer spouse to cool down. The essence of a good marriage is devotion to one's spouse and children, not personal fulfillment.

Now, if you're talking about a relationship outside of marriage, who gives a crap?

65 posted on 06/15/2014 2:56:50 PM PDT by Jeff Chandler (Conservatism is the political disposition of grown-ups.)
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To: Marie
The statement that ‘men are more interested in sex than women’ just isn’t true.

Men are more easily *triggered*, is all, which is not the same as being *more interested*.

66 posted on 06/15/2014 3:56:32 PM PDT by metmom (...fixing our eyes on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith....)
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To: Mr Rogers
That is NOT something I’ve ever heard preached or taught.

I've heard exactly that.

67 posted on 06/15/2014 4:14:29 PM PDT by Future Snake Eater (CrossFit.com)
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To: metmom

Exactly. You nailed it.


68 posted on 06/16/2014 2:40:49 PM PDT by Marie (When are they going to take back Obama's peace prize?)
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