[chris37]

I can accept that wording. I believe you are right about that, and I do not want to elevate rapists.

I think it’s fair to say that in choosing to raise the child, that being a decision of incredible strength and wisdom, it makes it her child and not his.

I appreciate your pointing this out to me, I will refer to it as the rapist in the future and not her rapist.

[Tax-chick]

Thank you. "The rapist" or "the man who raped her" identify the person without assigning the woman to a permanent condition of ownership. Perhaps it's just a grammatical quirk - possessive case is possessive case - but I'm like that ;-).