“To justify an apparent paradox you have to jump through some complicated hoops. I think it is both simpler than you make it out to be, yet at the same time vastly more complex.”
It just seems a paradox because you do not understand it, or are unwilling to give up the false premise which starts it. This is why I say, and still say, to go and pray on it, and ask God for both true understanding and that your soul may be quickened, if it hasn’t already been.
How to explain our modern world to a visitor from the past?
In my pocket I have this little device that makes available the knowledge of the entire world.
I use it to look at pictures of cats and quarrel with strangers.
You are pretending that the tension between free will and predestination is not as “old as them hills”. You seem to have The Answer. I am open for debate on the subject. So go stomp on the devils head or whatever your people like to do.