“If the rest of the nation does it, well, you can decide not to do it in your own church.”
That’s not the problem, there is no danger of ‘gay marriage’ being accepted in many faiths, in my opinion. And if some do accept it, they can’t punish any one else who doesn’t, like you say. The problem is if and when the state will punish those faiths that will never accept it. Considering 30 years ago ‘gay marriage’ wasn’t even an issue, I don’t think that is out of the realm of possibility.
Freegards
Therein lies the inevitable problem for all of us, either we really believe in Jesus Christ, or simply God, or we don’t. Either we believe that our belief is the right belief, despite the fact that governments could fine us, jail us, and so on for belonging to what they term the wrong belief system. It has happened before, people of Christianity and Judaism have had to be willing to get jailed, pay religious taxes (fines) or even die as opposed to abandoning their religion. I never wanted to see the day where the kinds of awful trials of faith would be upon us, but as far as I am concerned, I very well may see it, plus see state governments do it, in fact, I think it’s likely that National Governments will start doing it all with at least making you pay your religious fines in a few years’ time.