OK. To get to the crux of the matter, I have some questions:
Does God save man, or does man save himself?
If God saves man, how is it done?
If man chooses God, then is not man that saves himself, and not God, but God merely offering an opportunity to be saved? And does God know who will choose him?
Where in scripture is complete free will of man shown?
Is this complete free will subservient to the will of God?
Is this free will in bondage to man’s sinful nature, or can man overcome this sinful nature on his own to seek repentance?
Does the Bible show that God chooses one man over another?
I believe if you meditate on the Scriptures already given to you, you will have the answers to your questions.
I believe this debate has been done before, and each knows the others position, text proofs etc. My main point is that it is quite different and results in quite different views on salvation, God and man.
In general as it relates to our discussion, Calvinism goes to an extreme - no man, all God. Whereas the rest of Christian doctrine has much more of a relationship between God and man.
Luk_18:42 And Jesus said unto him, Receive thy sight: thy faith hath saved thee.
He gives us sight and faith. Our faith saves us.
Where in scripture is complete free will of man shown? Is this complete free will subservient to the will of God?
Get ready for a class in philosophy.
Does the Bible show that God chooses one man over another?
Joh 6:37 All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out.
Joh 6:44 No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day.
Joh_15:16 You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you.
Rom 9:13-15 As it is written, Jacob have I loved, but Esau have I hated. What shall we say then? Is there unrighteousness with God? God forbid. For he saith to Moses, I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion.