Posted on 12/18/2012 2:39:33 PM PST by truthczar2000
AS I have scrolled around the web absorbing information about the school shooting in New Town, CT., I have noticed a glaring absence of understanding of what motivated Adam Lanza to kill his mother and a class full of kindergarteners. There is an answer, but nobody seems to want to express it. I, for one, am unafraid to speak to this issue, as I see it. The real cause of this massacre has nothing to do with the proliferation of guns, nor does it have anything to do with a lack of mental health. The real cause of these kinds of shootings is the abandonment of young men and boys by their fathers. In her post at thebluereview.org/i-am-adam-lanzas-mother/ , Liza Long talks at length about her struggles with her 13 year old son. What she fails to mention is the presence of a dad in the house. Adam Lanza's mother was raising her son alone, basically; again, no father at home. I believe that what is often described as a "mental illness" is the effects of a boy growing up without a father. I know many people will be highly offended by that last statement, but let me explain. I am not discounting mental health issues; I work with disabled people and have seen real mental and developmental disability first-hand. It is true that America has problems dealing with mental disabilities in people. But "mental illness" does not explain the rash of young men committing mass murders. I believe fatherless-ness in the home provides a better explanation. In both of the cases described above, the mothers were doing their best to raise their sons alone. I both cases the sons were displaying extreme anger. I have seen this scenario played out in homes everywhere I have been. A mother tries to raise a son in a home with no father, and the son has anger issues. I believe that all sons have an innate longing for a strong father or father figure. A mother raising a son alone in most cases cannot provide that, no matter how easy divorce is and no matter how much feminists scream otherwise. AS a teenager, I had anger issues of my own ( i think most teenaged boys do). One might even say I had mental issues, based on today's diagnosis. But I had a strong loving father at home who taught me to respect others, especially women. I can honestly say that I am a stable man primarily because of my father. I wonder if Adam Lanza had the same advantage. His father was not living at home and no matter what anybody can say about how good a father can be while not living with the mother,a father separated from his sons cannot be as effective at being a dad as if he were living at home and working with his wife to raise his kids. I know this sounds simplistic, and many people who have been divorced or never married but had kids will get angry. But the Bible says many positive things about marriage and none about divorce or single parenthood. I believe God's plan is still relevant today. The shooting and all the discussion that has followed simply reinforces what I believe.
I believe you are right on this being over the 3 year period. There sure is a lot to be discovered in this matter and hope there will comes signs for others to learn by.
Such a shame, and so many kids like Adam out here still.
I don’t think that not having a Dad at home is the primary reason in all cases when these boys rampage.
I kind of think in this case, it did play a role. This kid obviously had mental problems before his parents divorced. But the divorce did cause a separation, Mom and Dad in different cities. This kid may have felt abandonment by his Dad, and therefore latched on to his mother even stronger. I have heard reports that he was upset with her for the time she was spending as an aide at the school with little kids. Sounds crazy, but in his mind, if he knew she was trying to have him committed to an institution, he was being thrown away by his mother too. This person was antsocial, but he was far from stupid.
He was obviously a very disturbed person most of his life. Add his age and hormones, the video games, the lack of friends to talk to, and I can see a pressure cooker ready to explode.
This in no way justifies or removes his guilt for this tragic nightmare. He committed a terrible crime.
Of course, I am just musing, but something transpired to set him off. He reportedly had never committed a crime before this.
I am reminded by this theory of a fellow with whom I once had a long term business relationship.
He was having a lot of problems with his oldest son. Real problems.
So he sent him to a shrink.
After so long a time, the shrink called the father in for a conference.
The shrink told him that he was traveling too much in relation to his business, which he owned and which operated nation wide, and that he needed to spend more time at home with the family.
So I asked him what was he going to do?
His reply was that he fired the shrink.
He said: “For all I know, I am the problem and staying home would make it worse.”
So no more than we know, we should have nothing to say on that subject.
Other than the father might have seen the wisdom of locking all of the guns up in a manner that was really secure, like finger print recognition gun safe, etc.
I have been personally involved in two matters similar but luckily not ending in murder...at least not yet.
And I can tell you that mothers find it very hard to admit that their child is really that bad.
Yes, but that was the boy's choice, not the father's. I don't think that the boy should have considered he had been abandoned by the father when he (Adam) was the uncooperative party. If he thought otherwise, he had a mental problem. My point is, we will never know the real cause and shouldn't start pointing fingers.
I want you to know that I am not blaming the Dad here. I don’t know why these parents were divorced, and obviously, the older son seems to not be affected. This kid was born a mess. I could understand this easier if he had a history of violence. But he didn’t. It came out of nowhere in the worst of ways.
I think the main thing I am saying is that we tend to, after something like this happens, paint people with a broad brush. Most likely there are many reasons things like this happen.
No other gunowner in America is responsible for this incident. Not all parents who ever divorced are responsible.
Not the whole lot of shrinks and psychologists are responsible. The only person that is, is Adam Lanza.
Doesn’t change the why? It is normal to wonder why.
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