The thing is that Poland proves the exception to this, as did the Austro-Hungarian Empire and the Holy Roman Empire before that.
the Polish-Lithuanian commonwealth was majority Catholic but not overwhelmingly, so it had room for dialogue and peaceful debates. The government wasn't under the rule of the Church
And this, paradoxically, was better for the Church as there wasn't the anti-clerical actions that occurred in the rest of Europe
Poland of what era?
I should have clarified that monarchies are generally, of course, regarded as legitimate, simply because the common space is a private property of the monarch. The government is still viewed with suspicion , but at least there is a king to deal with them.
This, by the way, is another equation that is missed: the north-western European countries are all monarchies.