I must agree. However, if there is a divorced woman who has custody of their children, and the x is paying child support (or vice versa, which is rare), the man who marries this woman really does not take on the problem of raising children who are not his own.
The 2nd guy speaks of widows and orphans. In that regards, I agree. However, divorce is SO rampant now a days, and a lot of out of wedlock children, these women and children ARE NOT widows and orphans.
Of course he does of he's not really an equal partner in the relationship. If he can't discipline them because they're "her" children, what is he?
I don't like Robertson, in general, but I think he's right. Men are not obligated to court any and all woman. If a man knows he'd make a poor husband and father in a situation with children from prior relationships, he's wise to avoid those situations because it protects all parties.
Fresh from college and starting his career, a friend took up dating an older woman with a child, was asked to marry and did, adopted her child as his own and in that first year they had their own child as well. Not a year later, my friend was killed leaving behind a widow with two young children to raise on her own rather than one.
While it can work out, as it did for an uncle who remarried to a woman with children when he approached 40, men really need to tread carefully but young men in particular.
if there is a divorced woman who has custody of their children, and the x is paying child support (or vice versa, which is rare), the man who marries this woman really does not take on the problem of raising children who are not his own.
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LOL. I married a divorced woman with 2 children from her first marriage. It was (is) my first and only marriage. The kids were 6 and 3, now 30 and 27. The ex did pay some child support (when the courts found him and forced him), but even if he had paid religiously, the suggestion that I did “not take on the problem of raising children who are not [my] own” is patently absurd. But you’re right, I didn’t have to, I chose to.
I was there every day for them as they lived with us. I coached their sports teams. I walked the young lady down the aisle at her wedding. I was at the hospital when the first grandchild was born (even though no blood of mine flows through that child’s veins, her parents wanted me there).
I am not all that unique in this regard. I learned it from my very engaged stepfather (RIP).