Posted on 03/19/2012 5:40:43 PM PDT by infool7
Two weeks ago after an argument, our 18 year old son left home and moved in with his 17 year old girlfriend and her divorced mother. He has been the model son, always kind and polite to everyone. Once he started dating her, about two years ago, his attitude towards our family began to slowly change. He started losing his long time friends, breaking his curfew and lying about his whereabouts. He had never mistreated us before this, now he is verbally abusive towards his mom and sisters and will not speak to me.
Please Pray for us.
Saying a prayer.
Prayers up for your family. Blessings.
Infool, I’m so sorry, and I am praying for you now.
I have a nephew who went astray years ago and has yet to come back. From what I’ve witnessed, I advise you straight out: don’t tolerate his behavior, don’t coddle it. That’s what happened with my nephew, and it was such a mistake. Nip it in the bud by showing him you will not accept such treatment.
Prayers for sure
And I pray he comes home soon a little wiser
Saying a prayer. I hope this situation turns around very quickly.
May God bless you with the courage and strength to deal with your son in a way that leads him to do the right thing.
The hard part is that, in the end, no matter what you do, it’s his choice.
You and your son in my prayers.
The shift from childhood to adult is a hard one, harder still in a society that deems purity to be an aberration. I know you are not asking for advice, simply for prayers, but I’d still like to impart my own learning:
Make it clear to your son that he is not to have any contact with the family unless he is respectful and courteous. That he is welcome back in the home under those same conditions, and that you’re proud of him for taking bold steps as an adult, but disappointed in the methods he’s chosen to express his choices and his views.
Be sure to personally invite him to family functions and events, as well as the occasional dinner, and be prepared to tell him to leave if he breaks the inviolate rules of courtesy and respect. Remind him also that he is setting an example for his siblings, and while arguments happen, family is forever.
And I’ll pray that the teaching that you’ve imparted in his heart will drown out the voices that have forsaken that learning.
Prayers sent
Kids grow up and try to make adult decisions before they are ready. Had the same thing with my daughter. She’s been through a lot because of those decisions, but...I tend to let them grow up and make mistakes. My current rule is: as long as she is safe and happy...I can deal with it. Growing up in these times is very, very hard. Just keep telling him you love him and will be there for him no matter what. That’s our job as a parent.
There have to be painful consequences for terrible decisions, and, while you always and continually pray for him, you have to have zero tolerance for this behavior.
I will pray for you and your family. I'd be willing to bet that at some point the bloom will come off the rose, his eyes will be opened, and he will return to you, more mature and much wiser. At some point, things are going to get tough and the girlfriend will not be worth the unpleasant circumstances and his family will look beautiful to him. He is still very young.
This is a terrible experience for you and I will pray for you.
Raising children has become harder and harder. Prayers are up for you and your family.
The teen years can be so hard on the child AND the parents. Prayers for all of you, may you have the wisdom to do all you can, then “Let go and let God.”
Stay focused on what HE will do in your behalf, In due time. Sometimes such things take time to change. Don’t let your faith be shaken.
I have a son about to be 18. Good gravy, they can be just impossible!
Your family will be in my prayers.
Sending prayers to you and your family and I hope
that your broken hearts are soon mended.
Are the young lady and her single mother drug users? I ask because drugs are more likely to cause personality change than a sexual relationship.
Prayers for your son and family.
Prayers have been sent for your family.
One of our sons is a little older and going through a similar phenomenon.
We are honest with him, telling him the truth without shutting him out, and prayers, lot of prayers.
As Fr. John Hardon used to say when speaking to the parents of a son who had run afoul, “What color are her eyes?”
Keep the faith, and be persistent.
Prayers up.
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