A deacon gave a talk at our Serra club. He said that the first thing he noticed about his wife was her face. And likewise the wife noticed his face.
Now compare that with the sick modern society......cute butt, big boobs, etc.
Sexuality is SOMEONE not something — and it is for marriage alone.
The first thing my husband noticed about me was I was the only other one there that could read (we were 3 and in preschool). Over the years, while we are certainly physically attracted to one another, the biggest attraction to each other was our minds.
Even after all these years of marriage, we recognize sex as a celebration of our love (not lust) and a gift from God.