[E. Pluribus Unum]

Funeral arrangements are to comfort the living.

The dead don't care.

I say, whatever works for the survivors ought to be good enough for the rest of the world.

[mylife]

And the most comforting thing I can say is “Do not speak of him/her as being gone. Speak of them with the same casual voice, for they are only in the next room, they hear your heart.”