Probably, I apologize if my previous comment came across as brusque or in any way attacking you personally
No prob. I understand what you meant. The whole thing was kinda awkward every sunday. I’m HUGE on fellowship with other believers. I think that is a major reason for church.
A friend (and ex-pastor) told me he chooses his chuch based on their potlucks. I thought he was joking. He was using the apparently flippant remark to illustrate what the first century church actually did when they met.
Christianity is about two things, and pretty much every verse and scripture deals with one or both of these things: Man’s relationship with man and man’s relationship with God. When we gather together in His name, a HUGE part of it should be the relationships of the believers gathered there. That means before, during and after the service.
Of course, each church does it in their own way, but what happened in this church was that “clicks” would meet at restaurants after the service. And folks like my wife and I would just be standing in a parking lot with a bunch of chinese scurrying into the building and setting up. This was not an issue at any other church we attended, and definitely NOT an issue where we are now.