As my dear departed Mama used to say, "You can catch more flies with honey, than with vinegar".
If you want folks to HEAR the Word of God, you have to be sure they are listening to you.
Pointing out that scripture clearly states that sodomy is a sin is not condemnation. If the church or any one of us are unafraid to point out that sodomy is an abomination to God we fall flat. The so called Christian gay community is NOT admitting that they need to not be involved in the gay lifestyle but are looking for acceptance of it.