You’re changing the subject. You stated that not all couples who live together are having sex. I contend that the number of cohabiting couples abstaining from sex is so small as to be statistically insignificant.
To get a meaningful result from a poll on the subject of the goodness of shacking up, a better group to question would be couples with long, successful marriages, say 25 years or more.
do you actually have kids or do you preach and how you do it to others?
I’ve been married 29 years and my hubby and I lived together for 2 years before we married. I have no idea of the accuracy of living together making it more or less likely the marriage won’t work- but among our friends those that lived together first have stayed together.
Another thing I would like to add here- It seems to me that many who do not live together rush into marriage pretty quickly which can be a huge mistake also- absolutely don’t know each other yet.
I think ideally a couple should darn sure get to know each other for quite a while before marrying- whether they live together or not. I have two daughters that rushed into marriage not knowing the other person nearly enough. One son-in-law was a meth addict and the other was a control freak- likely on his way to being a wife-beater. Both are getting a divorce now and I sure wish they had taken longer to marry to begin with.