Vatican II was not a dogmatic council. It did not declare any new doctrines. If anyone sincerely reads any part of Vatican II that people use today to change Catholic dogma (an impossibility), you will find that it does not clearly state what they say.
One can ignore Vatican II altogether, since VatII does not contain any new dogmas, and all the defined dogmas are contained in councils and decrees prior to Vatican II.
You seem to be going in two directions.
Come into the Roman Church for salvation.
Avoid the bulk of the Vatican II Roman Church or risk the snare of damnation.
What’s a poor baby Christian to do?