I think the “born that way or not” argument is a red herring. Let us assume for the moment that there is a genetic component to it. There are genetic components to many things which are not laudable, such as alcoholism, mental illness, psychopathy, etc.
The question should not be whether there is a genetic connection. The question should be does this lead to a healthy, wholesome, lifestyle that builds society, or does it lead to family breakdown, promiscuity, pedophilia, and other antisocial behaviors?
As an American, I laud tolerance. But tolerance is not the same as value-neutrality or even advocacy. The military certainly should not become a social experiment.
Amen...cuz the government has done such a great job using our public schools for every social experiment anyone has ever thought about through the years - NOT!