Eph 5:25-31 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." (NKJ)
I am sure your pastor is more a man who acts as a man should, but this reminded me -—
When my husband and I were at Target we talked about the way husbands will let themselves be treated by their wives. We got into the store when a woman said to her husband in a loud, rude voice, “Get into that line NOW” . Meanwhile, he’s pushing the cart with their baby in it. It was a sad thing to hear. I cringe when hear a woman speak to her husband like that.