It's interesting and telling to listen to the Sunday after service and dinner conversation in catholic and protestant families. I've been in both.
Yet you only have first-hand knowledge of families you have observed. You extrapolated the behavior of some members of the group to all members of the group. In other words, you offer a description of behavior you have observed as representative of the behavior of all. That is bigotry.
In my 30+ wasted years in the rcc, attending masses, going to catholic school, attending catechism....
I have come in contact with MANY friends, their families, my family, my in-laws family....and in only 2 exceptions have I seen ANY evidence of a people living for Christ.