I was in agreement with everything you said until, "and not just for the 9 months of pregnancy", which made me go what? What do you mean by that?
Is anything more helpless than an infant child. The middle ages, which are not so prudish or puerile as we, showed the bables suckling his moter’;s breast. Joseph and she carried him through the desert into Egypt and back, and into “hiding,” She taught him his prayers, and the meaning of Torah. In short she raised him as a child of Israel. And all through this time she carried secrets in her heart to which not even Joseph was privy. One reason why the Passion so resonates with Catholics—not liberal Catholics btw—is the wonderful intimacy between “ Mary” and “Jesus,” the scene where she sees him falling under the weight of the cross which is cut with the flashback of the child stumbling, and her escape from her fears as she rushes to embrce him. No Queen of Heaven here; just a mother and her child and hell iself cannot keep them apart.