To know is different from willing it to be a person’s destiny. Did God say “let’s make Judas suffer eternal damnation, damned from before he was born, from before time eternal” or did He say “I KNOW Judas will betray ME”
Jn 6: 70 Then Jesus replied, "Have I not chosen you, the Twelve? Yet one of you is a devil!" 71 (He meant Judas, the son of Simon Iscariot, who, though one of the Twelve, was later to betray him.)
This destiny was far older than Judas' few years on the earth up to that point. It had been predicted for hundreds of years:
- Mt 27:3 - When Judas, who had betrayed him, saw that Jesus was condemned, he was seized with remorse and returned the thirty silver coins to the chief priests and the elders.
- Zec 11:13 - And the Lord said to me, "Throw it to the potter"--the handsome price at which they priced me! So I took the thirty pieces of silver and threw them into the house of the Lord to the potter.