[GoLightly]

fairer answer than i usually get... shows deference to ‘The Church’ as well on some level.

I think you've raised a valid issue. Deference, sure, but there's probably a difference in my beliefs with respect to authority than I think you have.

[kawaii]

well i defer to seven councils where the whole church gathered together, and generally ask my priest or bishop what the councils said (often after doing a lot of research myself).