Do you not know that God’s hatred is not emotional, but comparative? God’s love for Esau is such that it appears as hatred when compared to His love for Jacob. All through the Bible this comparison is used. God “hates” the wicked; Jesus told us that we are to “hate” our families. What do you think these statements mean?
lets assume you are right and Gods love is comparative which I can not argue has backing in scripture. He is still favoring based on no perceivable merits one over the other other than its his preference.