Forgiveness
Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until they have something to forgive. ~C. S. Lewis
Louis Smedes, author of several books on forgiveness, notes that we do not forgive simply because we are supposed to forgive. We forgive because we need to be healed.
Forgiveness is said to have three stages. I dont deny what the person did not do nor do I pretend it wasnt wrong. But . . .
1. Instead of identifying the person totally with whatever they did to hurt me, I begin to see them as a person like me imperfect, but still someone God loves.
2. I give up my right to get even. Vengeful thoughts dont make the other person suffer. They hurt me. So I just plain rinse my mind of those kinds of thoughts.
3. I stand next to the Lord and together with him look at the other person. For sure, Jesus wants good things to happen to them. So, with the Lords help (and some struggle,) I begin to look at the other person the way the Lord does.
Think of someone you find hard to forgive. Forgiveness cant always be accomplished in one sitting . . . . . . or one day. But you might be able to do it by Easter. Today is the halfway mark between Ash Wednesday and Easter.
Then the high priest tore his robes and said, He has blasphemed! What further need have we of witnesses? You have now heard the blasphemy; what is your opinion? They said in reply, He deserves to die! Then they spat in his face and struck him, while some slapped him saying, Prophesy for us, Messiah; who is it that struck you?(Mt. 26:65:68)
During Jesus ministry, there were failed attempts by the religious leaders to trip him up in speech. Now theyve got him. Jesus just incriminated himself by claiming prerogatives that belong only to God.
The rest of the Sanhedrin agrees, and a death sentence is rendered.
Its done today in just about every sector, and not by extremists but by the regular folk. For example, studies show that in your face rudeness is rampant in the U. S. workplace.
But its also present in homes, and in parishes. When there is disagreement on a parish or school issue, righteous rudeness easily erupts.
To be on the receiving end of insulting taunts, to be heckled, is an awful thing. Yet, Jesus took it in silence.
To be on the giving end is worse. It is the deliberate torture of another human being, and it poisons our soul.
Weve all got excuses to justify it. But they fly in the face of everything Jesus taught . . . . . . and everything Jesus did.
Spend some quiet time with the Lord.