Many are called but few are chosen. God calls all, but chooses some. Why I don't know but I can assure you it is not because of HarleyD's actions.
God calls even on those He knows He will not choose? Don't you think the reality is that God calls on all but some respond? Oh, wait, there is no free will, right? Even when God knocks on your door you can't open it; He has to do everything for you. That's cozy. Just lay back and enjoy the ride...if you are on his "lucky list." Deep, real deep.
We still haven't come to your reason for the original discussion. You agreed God is not capricious in this. How so?