Having said that, I also have to say that we Christians have been given a Commandment:
"Go ye therefore and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit."
I don't think that the innocent child who dies without ever having heard the name of Jesus is in any spiritual trouble. But if we fail to love, reach out, and teach, and baptize, we are in spiritual trouble...
I recognize that I am in spiritual trouble when I become focused on myself. By loving others, reaching out and teaching, I become closer to Him, which is a gift in itself.