This is pretty much standard for Novus Ordo masses...it's time to get over all this and just go to the liturgy that you feel most comfortable in. Altar girl parishes will produce no vocations, Life Teen masses are in the process of being supressed, communion in the hand is a more subtle indignity that may take another 100 years to peter out. Things will get more outrageous for the next three years (new USCCB liturgy head is a poofter) ... ultimately people will see through the facade and return to traditional ways of doing things. Protestant converts will find themselves coming to the Tridentine as they really start to digest the idea of the Real Presense...the community meal services will pale in comparison.