I would agree with John Owen when he writes "to suppose that whatever God requireth of us that we have power of ourselves to do, is to make the cross and grace of Jesus Christ of none effect."
To the question I've asked you, my answer would rest in God's predestining, creative will whereby He choose to save some completely by Christ's redemption of them, and not because they did anything to merit His grace. All who are His will hear and see and understand and believe according to His perfect purpose from before time began.
The rest won't. But not because they weren't as good or righteous as the guy next door because grace has nothing to do with men's abilities or decisions. All men are fallen. Grace is the free, unmerited gift of God, based on His will alone, and not on any foreseen work, foreseen faith, foreseen decision to believe. Why? Again, because all men are fallen.
So if you could give us the Arminian perspective, why do you think one man "accepts" God's grace and another man doesn't? This question has been asked of you dozens of times and you either don't answer it or you reply something about having already answered it somewhere else. Perhaps I've missed it and you could kindly post it again. It shouldn't take more than a sentence or two.
Start a real thread and I'll answer your question.