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I am not one of the best informed or most intelligent Catholics on this forum, but I am going to offer you some unsolicited advise anyway. :)

Remember that your wife is going to be your partner in life, and your partner in creating new souls. You and she have the responsibility in the formation of those souls - your collective goal is to raise children who possess the prayer lives and moral foundations to get themselves into heaven. Don't pass up the opportunity to bring into the world another soul who can bring greater glory to God.

Surely, there will be times in your married life when you will doubt yourselves capable of getting any souls to heaven. It is during these most difficult times that you must try even harder through prayer and sacrifice to let Christ take command of your home.

This next piece of advice may seem harsh but I am saying nothing to you that I haven't said to my own children. If you can't imagine taking advantage of this awesome opportunity to raise up souls who glorify God right at the beginning of your marriage, perhaps you and your fiancee should rethink your choices of life partners.

God Bless and Best Wishes!

We definatly want to have kids. Both of us love children, and do to some of the details of Luthern theology (single predestination, which is another thread), I believe children to be an awesome responsibility and gift. My wife to be (raised Catholic by the way) and I have talked about it, and she wants to wait a year or so before starting to have kids. Mostly for us to get to know each other. We look forward to the chance to raise up some little ones to love Jesus.

The question becomes on how to delay the births. As a man, birth control has not been something I have had to think about. Since I am not married, it wasn't on the radar screen. The LCMS is studying the various pills out there, and most of what I have heard is that the boys in St. Louis are trying to decide how much they should say on it. The one with an abortionfact action are verbotin, but some do (in my limited understanding) do not. We still have a ways to go before the wedding, and this will be something we discuss.

I do agree about getting married with the intent of not having children. Kind of defeats the purpose in a way, though I know many Godly Christian couples that do not have any children.

By the way CathFam, is a "Good Lutheran" like the proverbial "good German"? (Joke)