LOL!...in a VAN, down by the RIVER!
You know, the Bell curve IQ spread is true for women, also. I notce that men have a hard time judging smart vs. stupid women. Stupid women will really believe that "there are two kinds of men in this world" and try to put you in one or the other catagory. Wussified, safe "nice guys" or abusive, psychopathic "real men."
Given a choice of the two categories, it's best to be among the latter, as these women tend to avoid pissing the "mean" guys off, and they are programmed to enjoy sex with a "mean" guy more. Shame it has to be so simplistic and shallow, but it's hard find even an intelligent woman whose perceptions of masculinity reach beyond that silly dichotomy.
Also, if you fit the "nice guy" pattern, lots of women will try to make you their nice, safe, forgiving, naive little security blanket. The guy whose shoulder they come to cry on when the "mean guy" won't let them spend the night or whatever.
Best thing to do is be in the "mean guy" catagory, but occasionally act decent as a sort of merciful condescension.
But once you've shown you "understand" they will go back to the mean guy for more abuse.
I often wonder if that's why the scripture says submit to you husband. Apparently he is wiser on how to work within the world. (I'm not saying be a door mat, but seek advice from your man on how to handle your day to day situations.)
What I've noticed is that the "Nice Guy" gets no respect because he tolerates not getting respect. The distinguishing characteristic of the "bad boy" is that he doesn't tolerate disrespect, and while he may WANT a woman's company, he doesn't NEED any PARTICULAR woman's company enough to put up with what the "nice guy" will. The result is that he gets respect from women