Posted on 08/21/2003 7:04:28 PM PDT by Thor_Hammar
Two years ago one of my younger brothers and one of my sisters tried to take over my parents' finances and force them to live in a nursing home. When they failed, they took filed a petition with probate court in Connecticut to have my parents declared incompetent to handle their own affairs. When they failed, my father and mother disowned them and told them never to darken their doorstep ever again.
About a year ago both my parents who were by then in failing health came to live with my wife and me. My mother was suffering from multi-infarct dementia and had suffered a heart attack. My father has congestive obstructive pulmonary disease and suffers from macular degeneration but is of sound mind provided.
My mother died of natural causes earlier this week. My wife and I informed my other two brothers and my other sister of the arrangements my parents had made months ago. We also informed them of my parents' desire that the brother and sister who had caused so much trouble in my parents lives not be told of the funeral arrangements. Both my parents agreed they wanted neither at their funerals and did not want the surviving spouse to be subjected to either of them. Unfortunately, one of my brothers took it upon himself to ignore my parents' wishes.
Yesterday afternoon my wife received an angry and abusive phone call from my brother. During that phone call my brother called me and my father "murderers" because we had both fought in wars. (My father is a highly decorated World War II veteran who saw action in North Africa, Sicily, Italy, and after landing on Omaha beach, in France and Germany. I served in Vietnam and Desert Storm.) He called me the most immoral person he knows because of my military service. I was stunned when my wife told me he said this. It took me about an hour to realize my brother, a dyed in the wool liberal so far left he makes Chris Dodd look like a conservative, is a typical liberal. That is, he believes everyone in the military is a murderer and an immoral person.
He referred to my father as "a crazy old man". I will admit my father is not as sharp as he was 10 years ago, but he still has all his marbles which is more than I can say for my brother based upon his actions and statements he has made in the past. For example, he called me a babykiller when he visited my parents' house where I had just arrived home on leave on Christmas morning 1972. My brother has exhibited bizarre behavior since he was in high school. His behavior, countenance, and demeanor are consistent with an individual who has a substance abuse problem. For example, he screamed at my wife, "May God would have mercy on our souls!" apparently for the great sin of honoring my parents' wishes that he and his sister not be told. This is bizarre because that statement is usually only make to condemned people and because my brother, though raised Catholic, is a New England Catholic who might step inside a church on Christmas Day and Easter Sunday.
I was concerned that the brother and sister whom my father never wants to see again would attend the funeral and cause my father grief. When we arrived at the mortuary, my brother and sister were there. True to form my brother demanded the funeral director show him the death certificate, wanted to know why an autopsy had not been performed (on a woman just short of her 86th birthday who had an attended death and who had seen her physician five days before she died), and demanded numerous other questions be answered. At no time did that twit ever approach his father to express sympathy for the loss of his wife of 61-1/2 years.
My sister shocked me by what she did. She knelt before the coffin and made a backwards sign of the cross using her left hand! I had to control myself to keep from tossing her out of the mortuary for that satanic symbol.
We went to the church where the priest said a Mass of Christian Burial for my mother. Neither my brother nor my sister seemed to know the standard responses. I suppose I should be grateful they sat toward the back of the church, but they were rude and disrespectful as they whispered all throughout the Mass. They refused to go into the parish center for lunch and never offered any sympathy to my father.
Those of you who read this piece carefully might wonder why I referred to "my father" rather than "his father" when referring to my brother. That is because my "brother" is really my cousin. His mother and father were my mother's aunt and uncle. His birth mother suffered from chronic depression, fits of rage, and mental illness so severe she was unable to raise children. My parents took my cousin into our family shortly after his birth and raised him as their own son. When he was unable to find a summer job (I guess I took more than my fair share as I had to work two full time and one part time jobs each summer to pay my college bills), they paid his tuition. He routinely borrowed money from his siblings to pay his bills but never paid them back. He just as routinely took advantage of my parents' largess whenever he needed something. For their generosity they were "repaid" by the court filing which was a bald attempt to seize their assets.
This is how liberal think, folks. They think that whatever someone else worked to achieve ought to be taken from that person and give to them because it is unfair for someone to have more than someone else.
While I am not a murderer and I do not consider myself to be immoral, I came very close today to forgetting the Fifth Commandment. But didn't the liberal courts order that Commandment and nine other Commandments removed from a courthouse in Alabama?
Don't worry about these things, they always have a way of working out in the end. They'll see the light one day, let's just hope it's sooner rather than later.
I would have done both brother and sister bodily harm for their funeral performances. Jail would have been worth it.
And may He see your "brother" ridden out of town on a rail...
Thank you and your father for your service to this country. Because of people like you two, there was a country for me to serve for 20yrs in the AF.
I guess according to your cousin that makes me an immoral, murdering individual too. By what I read of you and your father, I'm in good company.
As for your cousin and "sister", well, you showed far more restraint than I beleive I could have.
God bless.
The purpose of my post was to explain how liberals see others assets as theirs. After the two miscreants attacked my parents, they both executed new wills, new powers of attorney, new medical directives, etc.
My parents finally protected their assets against the two twits, but my parents' assets are not as important as my father's well-being.
T_H
What bothers me is that my cousin's "thinking" is typical of what passes for liberal "thought". What the pipsqueak does not understand is that we owe our freedom and way of life to those who have served. In my career, I have not met a single "babykiller" in the service. Almost all are honorable men and women who do not desire to kill enemy combatants let alone innocents. They are thoughtful, well trained and self-restrained. Quite unlike my cousin.
Perhaps it was my training that restrained me -- or rather, helped me restrain myself. But I could almost feel my blood boiling for a few seconds there.
His attack two years ago upon my parents does not, however, show him to be insane. That was a cold, calculated act to usurp my parents' assets that required cunning and pre-planning.
foreverfree
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