[jjm2111]

Excellent article and an excellent term for it: "Marriage Strike".

I'm in my late twenties and really do not forsee myself getting married. I've heard too many horror stories.

The only exception might be to a Christian woman who takes marriage seriously. Other than that... [shrug]

[tortoise]

The only exception might be to a Christian woman who takes marriage seriously.

Even then, you are taking your chances. Seriously.

[Dubh_Ghlase]

I can honestly say that "marrying within your faith" is a big plus to making a marriage work. Mine just past 25 and is going strong.

However, on the flip side: (Taking religion/faith out) I have found many women now use marriage, children, and divorce as a business. They marry, have a kid or 2, then divorce, taking at least half the assets and putting the husband (who may not be the father) on the hook financially for decades to come. Some don't even wait for kids. They hook an older, more financially secure man, live with him awhile, then she's off with the wallet. In Florida, it's 50/50 for assets acquired during the marriage. The woman gets the ring, then gets the new hubby to spring for new digs, new cars, vacation condo, etc. Then the split comes and he really gets nailed in the assets! Too sad for words...

[FourPeas]

Your idea of finding a Christian woman who takes marriage seriously is a good one. Be prepared, though, that such a woman usually expects the man to be a serious Christian who takes his responsibility to the family as his #2 priority, second only to God.

[Bonaparte]

[jim2111]: "...might be to a Christian woman who takes marriage seriously."

[tortoise]: "...even then you are taking your chances."
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Jim, listen to tortoise. He knows whereof he speaks. And Mark will be here shortly. He's been down that road.

I have a lawyer brother who has made exceptionally good income putting together "bullet proof" marriages for risk-averse men. We're talking the full monte here... all major assets, real estate, porfolios, etc. sheltered from judgment... major investigation into fiance's past, all info held on file for possible use in future court action... prenuptials that go on and on... and I'm only scratching the surface here, believe me.

There is no shortage of strategies that can be used. You can find out what parts of the country have high marriage rates and extremely low divorce rates. These will typically be in regions like the rural midwest and south. You can seek a prospective mate in churches of the most conservative cast imaginable. You can sit down and "eat a barrel of salt with her" (that could take some time, couldn't it?). There are many, many things you can do to improve your odds. But things can still go awry. It's always going to be a risk but then it always has been.

[LibKill]

The only exception might be to a Christian woman who takes marriage seriously.

Beware. I was involved with such a woman and seriously wanted to marry her. Fortunately I found out (BEFORE we went to the altar) that her heart was so full of Love for God that there was not the slightest bit of room in it for a mortal man.

After I dumped her she married a very Christian man. He divorced her after a couple of years. And got custody of their child. In California no less.