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Look, a person very dear to me- at 18 years old went to a party. She got drunk or was slipped something. I am not sure. The guys at the party took turns. The DA told me we could expect a vicious trial. We opted not to go to trial because we couldn't see putting our family member through what is essentially another rape by the criminal court system. She shouldn't have been at the party (rough crowd) and she shouldn't have been drinking, but she didn't deserve to be raped. She went through years of therapy, anti-depressents etc. After becoming a Christian, she was able to let it go and is now happily married and thinking about starting a family.

I feel guilty about not going to trial because these animals probably have done this again. Rape is a terrible crime and the victim is always blamed.

I don't think that the victim is always blamed for rape. She'll be blamed in court by the defense attorney, but most members of the press are not about to slander someone who accuses another of rape. Since most states have rape shield laws, that will further protect the victim in court.

Since the Kobe case is so high profile, everyone can expect to get drug through the grinder. Most of it will be done by the press, not by the other side or their counsel.

It's unfortunate that people have to discuss these things, but the fact is, there are so many false rape allegations filed that it would be inequitable to expect them to remain "untouchable" by the press while the accuser is constantly slammed. Michael Irvin of the Dallas Cowboys had this same thing happen to him a few years ago. A girl accused him of rape, and the press destroyed him. It turned out to be totally untrue, and he challenged the press to recall the statements made about him with the same veracity as the smears made against him.

Sorry to hear about the girl, but at least she's doing better now.