Yes, but we can work on being selfless first.
I have a bit of a theory on raising my kids. I developed this theory based upon circumstances that hit me very very hard.
Here goes.....
Most depression problems can be solved by talking things out with good family and friends. Some depression cannot be worked out through good friends, but most can be. Now the question is how do you find good friends. The answer is that you have a skill set and an attitude that attracts good friends. Be a good person and attract good people. If you get depressed and have no skills in talking, and your expectations from others are screwed up you will drive even the best Christian in the world away after a while.
The point is, good people want to be around other good people. So one must work on being good (read selfless- as this is almost a perfect substitute for good) in order to have a support network in place when you really need it.
Jerks never know what a real relationship is because they don not sacrifice for anyone. Sorry for the rambling, but I believe that selflessness (not doormatness) and patience does pay off.
You're not rambling. But what do you say to the guy who's been so burned by these stay at home women who've screwed around on him behind his back, ran him into the ground financially...and lied to about the whole thing...after he's been out struggling to make ends meet and support the family? His young son, btw, chose to live with him, not his mother.
Speaking of selfless, this same fellow goes on to another relationship, meets who he "thought" was a very nice lady with two boys. She has a mental breakdown, and dumps the boys. She wants no part of them. Or him. He takes the boys into his home, and now is raising 3 boys, two of whom aren't on his own.
Can one blame him for not wanting to get involved with another woman again?
These (literally) crazy women lead a path of distruction, only to leave the rest of us honest ones scratching our heads thinking that it's not just the men who get screwed...