You're way too impressed with your side. Seriously.
You really don't understand that social conservatives are but a tiny handful of people in a vast ocean of American citizens.
You're not even 10%.
You don't matter much any more.
A lot of the noisy social conservatives will whine and moan. Any nothing will happen.
Unless W gets wise and takes my advice above :) Then you'll never matter again. And you won't be able to hold the GOP hostage anymore.
Well, with the exception of the 10 percent figure. There are probably 20-25 percent who yet think that morality is critical to the condition of a society, and another 10-15 percent who would lean toward that direction.
I think you'll find that Hair and many others will come to my rescue regarding the matter of whether I am one of the "crazies" keeping W. "hostage".
But you miss, by a pretty fair margin, the kind of impact that this matter will have on the American nation.
They want to control our lives, take our money, and so on - they have no problem invading our lives with what they think is best for us. They have no problem over burdening private business with their many laws, I want less laws, they want more - fine, we will give them more. Maybe they will see what it is like to have your life legislated into the ground.
Marriage is centered around the idea of pro-creation. If gays want to live together, as my friends do, fine. If a company wants to give them benefits, that is up to the company to decide. Government recogizes marriage as a different type of union between two people, one in which the goal is to pro-create and continue to populate the land. There is nothing wrong with sanctioning such a set-up as something different and affording them tax breaks, et al. What people want to do in their private lives is their business, you don't even have to get married - it is an option two people can take if they want to have their committment recognized for either religious or legal reasons. If society as a whole places special meaning to a relationship where pro-creation is possible (dosen't always happen) and as a group decide to afford it a special status that does not mean we are keeping others from being together, it is simply a legalistic was to say we think it is a worthwhile endeavor for the betterment of society.
Gays are not being deprived any more than a farmer who wants to marry his daughter or a goat. Society has simply stated that those things are not what marriage as a recognized institution was designed for. Government can stay out of marriage, and just let people live together and do as they please - which they do (lots of gays live together), but government went a step further and said they recognize a special type of relationship which they felt had a positive affect on society, a man and a woman. If you CHOOSE to participate, by getting a marriage license, fine. You get both the rewards and legal ramifications for it.
Marriage has had, for some great time, had a definition. Why change that definition to please the few?