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My kid is my reason for living and wouldn't trade being her dad for the world, but I'll be damned if I ever stick my head into the chipper-shreader that is the
divorce/support industry for a new round of emotional torment and extortion. I had custody for almost two years without so much as one penny from "mom" during
that time, and while working fulltime.

I have talked to very few men in my time that could give a fig what the ex-wife does as long as he can have the children. If she wants to go paint the town blue at all hours, go running around all over the country, never pay a dime for support, most guys couldn't care less. They do however still want, and have every right to expect to be a presence their children's lives. Here's a hint for the courts, you can't be a presence in your child's life if you only get to see them every two weeks for about 48 hours. And here's another news flash, seeing them for a couple of weeks in the summer doesn't make up for it. Having your children in your home for 30 weeks out of 780 over fifteen years simply isn't equitable.

I hear ya! I didn't want or need anything from the ex, and was content to keep it that way. In fact, one of her demands during negotiation for when she was going to sign over custody was that she not pay any support. Fine. She never would have paid it anyway. She ended up getting custody again after making life for my daughter a living hell and threatening that if she went along with my having custody, she would NEVER be allowed to live with her or my daughter's little sister again (from her 3rd failed marriage). She also put a new 30" color tv in her bedroom at her place and made all kinds of promisses. She wasn't there long before the tv came and cable came out of her bedroom and the allowance that she had been promised dissapeared along with the promise of moving closer to here, where the rest of her family and friends are. But mom got to pick up a new SUV and a couple of new PC's with a high speed internet connection and digital cable in mom's bedroom once the checks started rolling in for 2 kids from two different men, as well as her 4th husband paying most of the bills. The only thing I hate worse than subsizing that harpy's largess is seeing my little girl realize that she's been used by her own mother for cash and prizes. My ex is a real piece of work on many fronts. She's made it clear who comes first in line...her 4th husband instead of her 1st born.