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Don't you love how the industry always drones on about how "child" support and visitation are completely seperate...that is unless for whatever the reason you end up behind on what you're ordered to pay up. THEN all of a sudden they are directly related, since that is one of the MANY things they can take away from you. But when you have a manipulative b*tch getting cute with visitation, up goes the wall of seperation again.

My kid is my reason for living and wouldn't trade being her dad for the world, but I'll be damned if I ever stick my head into the chipper-shreader that is the divorce/support industry for a new round of emotional torment and extortion. I had custody for almost two years without so much as one penny from "mom" during that time, and while working fulltime. When she used the man-hating system to get custody again, I had to pay her more than twice what it really cost to raise a kid.

Sometime in the next 15-20 years (thankfully, mine will be well into adulthood then) all of this unaccountable group of judges, lawyers and case workers is going to turn on these women and take the kids for the State to raise in foster care. This will happen right about the time that the case load is cut in half because enough men have wised up and got vasectomies after they turned 18 or a male version of Norplant is developed. THEN we'll hear from women how unfair the system is.

My kid is my reason for living and wouldn't trade being her dad for the world, but I'll be damned if I ever stick my head into the chipper-shreader that is the
divorce/support industry for a new round of emotional torment and extortion. I had custody for almost two years without so much as one penny from "mom" during
that time, and while working fulltime.

I have talked to very few men in my time that could give a fig what the ex-wife does as long as he can have the children. If she wants to go paint the town blue at all hours, go running around all over the country, never pay a dime for support, most guys couldn't care less. They do however still want, and have every right to expect to be a presence their children's lives. Here's a hint for the courts, you can't be a presence in your child's life if you only get to see them every two weeks for about 48 hours. And here's another news flash, seeing them for a couple of weeks in the summer doesn't make up for it. Having your children in your home for 30 weeks out of 780 over fifteen years simply isn't equitable.