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Before I was married the second time, my current wife and I discussed children at length. I explained that there was about a zero chance in hell that I'd put myself in the position of being exposed to blackmail for in excess of 20 years ever again.

I have always considered it my responsibility to share in the support of my children. I never considered it my responsibility to pay in excess of what was needed to support them while my ex wife(ves) took a couple weekend trips per month on my dime.

I also found it excruciatingly painful to try to enforce my visitation rights while she played the manipulation game full tilt. NEVER again! Not this guy.

Don't you love how the industry always drones on about how "child" support and visitation are completely seperate...that is unless for whatever the reason you end up behind on what you're ordered to pay up. THEN all of a sudden they are directly related, since that is one of the MANY things they can take away from you. But when you have a manipulative b*tch getting cute with visitation, up goes the wall of seperation again.

My kid is my reason for living and wouldn't trade being her dad for the world, but I'll be damned if I ever stick my head into the chipper-shreader that is the divorce/support industry for a new round of emotional torment and extortion. I had custody for almost two years without so much as one penny from "mom" during that time, and while working fulltime. When she used the man-hating system to get custody again, I had to pay her more than twice what it really cost to raise a kid.

Sometime in the next 15-20 years (thankfully, mine will be well into adulthood then) all of this unaccountable group of judges, lawyers and case workers is going to turn on these women and take the kids for the State to raise in foster care. This will happen right about the time that the case load is cut in half because enough men have wised up and got vasectomies after they turned 18 or a male version of Norplant is developed. THEN we'll hear from women how unfair the system is.