Sex in the Zeroes

toogoodreports.com ^ | 3/2003 | Bernard Chapin

[Ignatz]

The modern woman, through the mechanism of the sexual revolution, has been indoctrinated to believe that the mindless pursuit of copulation is the road to enlightenment.

I would correct this to read "...has been indoctrinated to believe that the mindless pursuit of copulation is the achievment of enlightenment."

[wardaddy]

Great article.

I liked the part about men=jobs...women=careers.

[Gerish]

Glad you have found happiness.

LOL about the lady down the street with all the cats!!!

[wardaddy]

Males have always, and will always, prefer younger and more fertile females to older ones and the pursuit of fertility is a noble (not shallow) reason for why we select the women that we do.

Hear Hear!!!...and a heartfelt thanks to my wife!

[wardaddy]

Do you want more children?

If so then you would have to logically look for a woman somewhat younger than you unless you want to "hope" or have a lot of money for invitro.

I'm not talking early 20s babettes but maybe early to mid 30s.

I did at your age and I like it!

[wardaddy]

Agreeable bump.

[Gerish]

Yes I agree. Remember when you were growing up there was always that guy who thought he was "God's gift to the world." Unfortunately, the trend seems to have now reversed with most women in their 20's having this attitude (no matter how unsightly they may be). It is only when they have passed their prime do they realize how wrong they were and by that time - NOBODY WANTS THEM! Modern culture has definitely caused such an attitude.

[Southack]

"As much as I like Bernie's social commentary I must say that as a single male about to hit thirty who lacks the social skills for successful dating I find that it leaves me depressed as hell."

Bah. Social skills are for competing with Socialites.

Ignore them.

Go to the Sunday School of your choice. Go to the art classes of your own interests. Participate in the sports that you enjoy. Be honest and yourself. If you never try to con women with "lines", or push them away deliberately, then such legitimate activities will ensure that the women find you.

One of my friends just moved onto a houseboat. He loves it. He enjoys sailing it, and he enjoys working on it as well as grilling out on the back deck while moored in the harbor. He has no social skills, no money to speak of, and no looks, yet women flock to him now that he is doing what he honestly enjoys rather than trying to hit the bars with catchy "lines". The same goes for countless couples who go to Sunday School because they sincerely enjoy it. If you truly enjoy Sunday School, you won't escape single.

[wardaddy]

Good for you.

[Rebelbase]

You definitely did well for yourself.

No more kids for me. I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel with the two I've got........I told that to a friend of mine whose kids have their own families now, and he said "I hate to tell you, but there are multiple tunnels!"

[my_pointy_head_is_sharp]

years of baggage from broken sexual or emotional relationships...it embitters women more than it gets to men

That's a very interesting observation. I wonder why that's so?

[IvanT]

It's astonishing, isn't is Gerish? Just a perfectly innocent 'hello' as well, and I'm not even on the market.

They always assume that we are hitting on them, which isn't necessarily the case.

Southack makes a very good point though - going to bars etc. is not the place to meet a woman, at least one that's worth having - I try to convince my single friends (both men and wommen) to join a club, get some excercise, play a sport, take a class. But they're too tied into the bar lifestyle, and it's likely why they, too, find themselves single. Alas, even the ones at the gym are too busy primping themselves in the mirror to allow a man the 'privelege' to say 'hello'.

I don't envy my single mates, that's for sure.

[windcliff]

ping

[wardaddy]

I would to at 57...but the 20 year old could drop by on occasion...lol....if I were single.

This article is about men choosing reproductive partners outta the gate...not old dogs like you and I "hunting".

[Protagoras]

Ben Franklin said about sex with older women - They don't swell. They don't tell. And afterwards, they're grateful as hell.

Please cite the source of this information.

[onedoug]

Paging Gloria Leonard.

[muggs]

Ben Franklin really said that?

[wardaddy]

Wife #1 dumped me for moneybags(big moneybags)...she did me a favor actually but my relationship with our daughters while still strong will never be what it was. We live too far apart. I spend huge money to keep my "end up".

Anyhow so I was single for almost 7 years and after a fair number of girlfriends, I found someone to start another family with which was what I always wanted after my divorce. I was 40, she was 33. Perfect match biologically. Now after nearly 5 years of marriage we have a baby and a 3 year old. I could not ask for more and the age difference is not so great that we are out of sync and the risk of cuckolding later on is less.

I understand the gist of this article from my perspective. I doubt i would have married a 22 year old at 40...not me but she would have been welcome to spend weekends..lol.

I actually had a 19 year old babette come on to me pretty strong at 40 before i met my wife. I hate to admit it but I ran....it just didn't feel right to me. Her father, a local attorney was only a couple of years older than me. My wife now teases me about letting that catch get away....yeah right. I ran a pretty large life before my first marriage and in between so my wanderlust has been pretty much sated over the years. Some guys I know are eaten up with it sadly.

Thanks for the kind words.

[Under the Radar]

In the dark, all cats are grey, baby.

[wardaddy]

You ought to ping your wife to that homage huck!

ought to be good for a back rub at least.