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Old...are you middle aged or something...even older?

That probably is an appropriate course for someone older and looking to avoid getting hurt. Be friends first.

But, for me....I have never done that. The sexual attraction is my first motivation and hopefully I'll find that there is more to be attracted to.

If I were single and friends with a girl I was attracted to...I'm gonna take the plunge and deal with the rejection if it happens.

It's not just guys who think like that. My wife tells me she could tell withing 30 seconds of meeting a guy if she would ever sleep with him if everything else fell together.

Your idea is prudent I know but it's just alien to me....and I have a lot of women friends...some of whom are indeed attractive but I'm very married so my perspective is simply one of admiration.

All this dog and pony show between guys and gals get SO MUCH easier as you get say past 30 or so....in my book. Most folks know what they want by then and are ready for it and don't want to waste time.

No girl should move in with a guy (religious considerations aside) unless there is a ring on her finger and a tentative date set. Anything else is just playing house.

The sexual attraction is my first motivation

That's the way it was with me; it's only natural. But it always led to disappointment, not because it didn't end in marriage, but because some other vital elements were lacking.

Yes, I'm past middle age. No, I'm not looking any more. I just like to chat with people sometimes.

I agree with your post. Physical attraction is what kindles the spark and then keeps us interested.

I just wish that more young people would realize that if their partner isn't someone that they wish to marry, they should move on. Life is too short to stick with the wrong person, for the wrong reasons. Physical attraction shouldn't be the only reason why we are in a relationship.

Hey, wardaddy! Hope you're having a nice Friday! :-)

My wife tells me she could tell withing 30 seconds of meeting a guy if she would ever sleep with him if everything else fell together.

That didn't always happen with me. Somtimes I'd be friends with a guy for many months before something would "click" in my head and all of a sudden, I'd find him attractive. (Could have been when I was ovulating, though... ;-))