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Ironically, when a woman who is no longer interested in sex gets her way, and the begging, wheedling, and cajoling for lovemaking finally stop altogether-- she'll die on the vine a lot faster than he will. And her resentment may be even greater than his. I am a woman, btw, so please don't tell me I know zip about female sexuality.

You know about yourself but not all women! I can go a lot longer than my hubby. Not because I don't love him or love sex, but after having a baby my interest is just gone for like a year. Do you have any kids? They give new meaning to exhaustion!

You know about yourself but not all women! I can go a lot longer than my hubby. Not because I don't love him or love sex, but after having a baby my interest is just gone for like a year. Do you have any kids? They give new meaning to exhaustion!

That sounds like my case too! It just up and vanished, even though I love him and enjoy sex. It's a strange phenomenon.

Any woman can go longer than any hubby, generally speaking. Children make you tired. When a person's tired they usually want sleep more than they want sex. That isn't the point.

The point is there are worse things than being pestered for sex when you're not interested. Such as, never being pestered for sex and realizing it's because he's no longer interested. They do get the message eventually.

No, I never had kids, but I have definitely been in the situation I just described. Rejection hurts just as bad when the shoe is on the other foot.

When I said "dying on the vine" I wasn't talking about celibacy.

I honestly don't get the baby/exhaustion thing, and we have two children, and are working on 2-3 more (not all at one shot, please.)

Yes, the early sleep deprivation days are pretty rough. But, given the choice of a 30 minute nap, or a 15 minute quickie and 15 minute nap, I can guarantee that splitting the difference is going to make me feel a lot better overall than just the nap. I think a lot of moms (especially new moms) get wrapped up in the baby only, and forget about the husband entirely for a good long while. Not being up for intercourse isn't an excuse to deny ALL physical affection from a husband, either. I prefer to keep in mind that such affection is one of the big reasons I AM a Mom, and that if I'd like to be a Mom again, it might be a good idea to keep in practice.

Here's to month three of practicing for child #3. By gum, if you've gotta practice something, this is the thing to work on! Then there's the 40 weeks of excess, followed by a 6 week famine... but what's a total of 24 weeks out of my expected 100 years??

My family has many examples of good husband/wife teams... my folks have seven children (Mom's reason: "unbridled carnal passion, dear."), and my great-grandparents finally gave it up when he was 97, and she was 88--because he kept having mini-heart attacks, and she didn't want to have to explain why he was sitting up reading the paper without his robe on at 3am. And even though he recognized that it was practical, he sure wasn't thrilled about it. :)