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I would bet that out of every 10 no-sex relationships 9 of them can be attributed to one partner allowing their physical appearance to deteriorate.

Nope. I understand you're thinking, but it's just not the case.

I've heard of many marriages where sex stops almost immediately after the wedding.

It's a matter of sex drive, or lack of it. There are thousands out there who are dying inside because of a lack of affection from their spouses. Quick fixes like yours, or the advice to do more chores, are not likely to work in the vast majority of cases.

”It's a matter of sex drive, or lack of it.”

If lack of sex drive is occurring with a young married couple something is either physically or mentally wrong with either one or both of them. I would recommend seeing a doctor.

Quick fixes like mine are only a minor adjustment in which a person has to change their entire lifestyle. There is nothing easy about it.

I think lack of concern for one's appearance can be a part of it.

But, pregnancy, young children, financial woes and hormones (a big one) and simply folks who maybe feel they didn't live enuff before they settled down (particularly for men) also contributes.

A strong spiritual bond and VERY shared goals of the family can help to overcome that.

I absolutely agree with that. My mother was not much overweight, but lost about 20lbs and was fit--a really smoking size 6(from a 10)--guess what, it was shortly after she lost weight and had the confidence to finally learn to drive at the age of 38 that my father divorced her. HE WAS THE ONE WHO CHEATED, get this, AFTER MY MOTHER LOST WEIGHT(something he complained about incessantly!). It was never about the weight and that's even more evident 15 yrs post divorce and he's about to go through another divorce with the woman he cheated on my mother with originally. I still think couples who think that is it, should really explore just a little deeper to be sure there is nothing more to their relationship problems. For so many couples weight gain is just an easy smokescreen for real problems since it is such a visible thing to blame and that's true of individuals who are overweight and falsely think that their whole problem is weight and once it's off, all will be wonderful--it usually isn't and I don't think it ever is the whole issue in marriages either.