[wardaddy]

I think lack of concern for one's appearance can be a part of it.

But, pregnancy, young children, financial woes and hormones (a big one) and simply folks who maybe feel they didn't live enuff before they settled down (particularly for men) also contributes.

A strong spiritual bond and VERY shared goals of the family can help to overcome that.

[cmotormac44]

You are right about the many things that can hurt a marriage, but, all can be overcome if both parties will give it an honest shot--I can't be of much help to you young folks as I have been married for 53 years (to the same woman) and we find that our sex life today is deeper and infinitely better than when we were younger--raising 8 kids, working to pay the bills (me only, she was home taking care of the little ones),thinking we knew all about everything (as most young folks do), kept us from really having the time and understanding about each other---after the kids all married and left home we had a sortout period and I learned what a wonderful wife I had chosen (or did she choose me?) and just how much she had done and how hard she had worked being a housewife (term looked down on by many women today)over the years--now that we have 25 grands and greats and they all love and lookup to Grandma the trip has been so very much 'worthwhile'---just hang on and think of the reasons you both came together and married and you will find out "the best is yet to come"---May God Bless all families in these trying days