'Honey, You Repel Me': Advice For Couples in a Sexless Marriage

Wall Street Journal ^ | Thursday, May 15, 2003 | SUE SHELLENBARGER

[William McKinley]

It's all in ze louve

[dirtboy]

It is FReeper looove.

Easy, boy.

[governsleastgovernsbest]

the problems of dual-income, no-sex marriages

Some couples don't find it a problem at all.

[Dementon]

If men understood how sexy it is to help with housework without being asked, to change diapers, to call babysitters, to play with the kids ... they'd do more of it.

If this is all you need to do, I must be the sexiest man alive ;)

[tuna_battle_slight_return]

"Women don't go into "heat" like female animals."

You must not know the women I know!

[laurav]

Yep, life won't be better if you get the promotion but your spouse leaves you. Just a thought...

[laurav]

A Los Angeles-area electronics consultant, a fitness buff, complains that his wife's weight gain has left him cold. He's not alone: Overweight spouses are a common beef among men and women who work out at his gym, he says.

One of the funniest lines in the Al Franken "Oh The Things I Know!" graduation book is that gaining weight and letting your appearance go to hell are good ways to passive-agressively punish your spouse. Says something about the Franken marriage!

[papertyger]

hey-- that's MY idea of foreplay -- but I will settle for 45 minutes if I don't have to keep nudging the masseur awake! The rewards are worth it!

No offense intended, but "the rewards" are very seldom worth it...therein lies the problem.

[MikeD]

The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

1 Corinthians 7:3-5

MD

[txhurl]

Bravo!

[cake_crumb]

Everybody's spouse has something about them that gets on their nerves. There really is no quick fix, though immersion in the rat race definitely doesn't help.

[papertyger]

1 Corinthians 7:3-5

Ever try holding a woman to that?

Good Luck.

[whereasandsoforth]

Yeah, just like beer & cheeze-its. Sex is, always has been, and always will be, over-rated. Describe to me, in twenty words or less, your last orgasm. One can sometimes get more satisfaction, and real "after-results", from a great meal.

I like sex, please. It is nice to be with the woman I love. But I'll be damned if I will ever think sex is all man and woman have to share. There is so much more for an intelligent being to gather from the union. So many more things than the last orgasm. Sex is nice, but love is the true experience.

[sonserae]

Glad you read this!

[MikeD]

Ever try holding a woman to that?

No, my wife holds me to it... ;^{)

MD

[FeliciaCat]

"That's nothing. What about when her idea of foreplay is a two and a half hour swedish massage?"


Now your talking.....

[ItsOurTimeNow]

Yep, life won't be better if you get the promotion but your spouse leaves you. Just a thought...

Again, I agree.

I've always held the belief that it is possible to run a family on one income. The problem is, when you have two couples heavily immersed in the rat race, they're working to support a lifestyle, not just run a family.

My wife is a Stay-at-home-mom, and my salary (high 30K range) is enough to suit us fine. Granted, we don't take vacations in hawaii, or weekenders in the Hamptons, but we have a very close family because of it.

[dirtboy]

Describe to me, in twenty words or less, your last orgasm.

I'll try. Uh... Ung... Ah... Ah... Ahhh... Uh... AHH.. UUUHHH... AHHRGH... Oh, cripes, get that damned dog off the bed!

[Chemist_Geek]

Those people ought to be glad that they have a spouse to begin with...

[sonserae]

Oh my gosh! That was funny!